1. The prime objective of steps 1 and 2 is:
2. Which of the following is not necessary to develop the therapeutic alliance?
3. Which response is not an example of empathic attunement to Gerald?
HintThe next questions are about Gerald and Barbara, who have the following exchange in their initial session: Example: Gerald: “We seem to be getting on just fine and then suddenly we’re not. Barbara launches into a tirade. It comes right out of the blue! She ambushes me! Before we know where we are, she’s telling me she wants a divorce. Me,– I’m like a turtle. I withdraw into my shell where no one can hurt me…” (a tear begins to trickle down his cheek) “We haven’t even had a hug in years.” Barbara: “We aren’t getting on fine! You come home every night and switch on the TV and there you stay for the night. You never even see me. I don’t exist for you. That’s why we never hug. I’m too busy sucking up my anger. I suck it up and suck it up, and then I can’t take it anymore—I blow!”
4. Which response is not an example of empathic attunement to Barbara?
HintThe next questions are about Gerald and Barbara, who have the following exchange in their initial session: Example: Gerald: “We seem to be getting on just fine and then suddenly we’re not. Barbara launches into a tirade. It comes right out of the blue! She ambushes me! Before we know where we are, she’s telling me she wants a divorce. Me,– I’m like a turtle. I withdraw into my shell where no one can hurt me…” (a tear begins to trickle down his cheek) “We haven’t even had a hug in years.” Barbara: “We aren’t getting on fine! You come home every night and switch on the TV and there you stay for the night. You never even see me. I don’t exist for you. That’s why we never hug. I’m too busy sucking up my anger. I suck it up and suck it up, and then I can’t take it anymore—I blow!”
5. Try to step across into Gerald’s world. What do you guess is his experience? Pick the answer that best captures his probable experience.
HintThe next questions are about Gerald and Barbara, who have the following exchange in their initial session: Example: Gerald: “We seem to be getting on just fine and then suddenly we’re not. Barbara launches into a tirade. It comes right out of the blue! She ambushes me! Before we know where we are, she’s telling me she wants a divorce. Me,– I’m like a turtle. I withdraw into my shell where no one can hurt me…” (a tear begins to trickle down his cheek) “We haven’t even had a hug in years.” Barbara: “We aren’t getting on fine! You come home every night and switch on the TV and there you stay for the night. You never even see me. I don’t exist for you. That’s why we never hug. I’m too busy sucking up my anger. I suck it up and suck it up, and then I can’t take it anymore—I blow!”
6. Now try to step across into Barbara’s world. What is her experience? Pick the answer that best captures her probable experience.
HintThe next questions are about Gerald and Barbara, who have the following exchange in their initial session: Example: Gerald: “We seem to be getting on just fine and then suddenly we’re not. Barbara launches into a tirade. It comes right out of the blue! She ambushes me! Before we know where we are, she’s telling me she wants a divorce. Me,– I’m like a turtle. I withdraw into my shell where no one can hurt me…” (a tear begins to trickle down his cheek) “We haven’t even had a hug in years.” Barbara: “We aren’t getting on fine! You come home every night and switch on the TV and there you stay for the night. You never even see me. I don’t exist for you. That’s why we never hug. I’m too busy sucking up my anger. I suck it up and suck it up, and then I can’t take it anymore—I blow!”
7. Write your own empathic response that signals to Gerald that you have understood him.
8. Write your own empathic response that signals to Barbara that you also understand her.
9. Choose the therapist response that provides a reflection of her experience:
10. Pick the therapist response below that best illustrates reflecting nonverbal communication:
11. Pick the therapist response below that best illustrates reflecting the incongruence between what Charles says and what the therapist observes.
12. Pick the therapist response that best validates Julia’s experience:
13. Your new couple are very angry with each other as they discuss their finances. Marjorie is adamant that she should take over paying the bills and controlling the budget. Brian insists he’s doing a good job and she needs to back off. Pick the therapist response below that validates each client’s position.
14. Pick the therapist answer that is the best example of a reframe.
15. Pick the therapist response that best exemplifies “catching the bullet.”
16. Reflections help maintain the focus of the session.
17. When the therapist validates a client, it helps the client to regulate feelings of shame and self-judgment.
18. A validating statement affirms and reframes a client’s experience.
19. The intervention called “catching the bullet” is a kind of reframe where the therapist bypasses the aggression and focuses instead on the underlying pain.
20. The EFT therapist only uses reflection in the early stages of assessment.
21. What is Sarah’s secondary (reactive) emotion?
22. The therapist says: “Sounds like it’s really hard for you, Sarah, when he spends time with Ruth?” This therapist response in an example of:
23. In this exchange the therapist is trying to:
24. Write a statement that validates each partner without invalidating the other.