Creating The Therapeutic Alliance - EFT Paartherapie Schweiz

The prime objective of steps 1 and 2 is:

To identify the negative interactive cycle.

To discover the attachment style of each partner.

To create a therapeutic alliance with each partner

To take a relationship history

Which of the following is not necessary to develop the therapeutic alliance?

Making eye contact

Mirroring and echoing the client

Accurate empathic reflections.

Going over time in the sessions.

Which response is not an example of empathic attunement to Gerald?

“It sounds like it’s all very confusing for you. One minute things are fine, the next minute there’s the threat of divorce.”

“So how do you get out of the shell?”

“Right! You withdraw into your shell where it’s safe.”

“It seems like it’s safe in that shell, but terribly lonely.”

Which response is not an example of empathic attunement to Barbara?

That must be painful, to feel like you don’t even exist for him.

You’re feeling continually so far away from him that hugs are out of the question.

Can you talk about your anger with him?

I can understand why you blow now and then, if you’re always sucking up your anger

Try to step across into Gerald’s world. What do you guess is his experience? Pick the answer that best captures his probable experience.

Angry, irritated, and distant.

Lonely, puzzled, sad, and possibly angry.

Attacked, defensive, and angry

Stonewalling and blaming.

Now try to step across into Barbara’s world. What is her experience? Pick the answer that best captures her probable experience.

Angry, irritated, and disengaged.

Lonely, puzzled, sad, and possibly angry

Attacked, defensive, and angry.

Angry, hurt, and rejected.

Write your own empathic response that signals to Gerald that you have understood him.

Write your own empathic response that signals to Barbara that you also understand her.

Choose the therapist response that provides a reflection of her experience:

“What was your surgery for?”

“I can imagine you must have been furious about that.”

“So you were both stressed out at the same time.”

“You felt like he wasn’t there for you.”

10.

Pick the therapist response below that best illustrates reflecting nonverbal communication:

“You get tearful as you think of this.”

“Take your time, Emily.”

“Perhaps you have never talked about this before?”

“Let’s move on to something that is easier to talk about.”

11.

Pick the therapist response below that best illustrates reflecting the incongruence between what Charles says and what the therapist observes.

“What’s funny about her being mad at you?”

“I notice you smile as you say that, Charles, but I wonder if there aren’t some pretty painful feelings associated with knowing she’s mad at you.”

“Sometimes, Charles, we smile when we have other feelings that we are not comfortable with sharing.”

“So what do you do, Charles, to make her mad at you?”

12.

Pick the therapist response that best validates Julia’s experience:

“It sounds like the two of you fall into some kind of angry cycle at the end of the day.”

“Yes, Julia, I’m getting that he’s very tightly wound and that certainly isn’t acceptable.”

“Yes, if it seems like anything will set him off, I can understand you might feel nervous.”

“Yes, I can understand you must feel very angry with him.”

13.

Your new couple are very angry with each other as they discuss their finances. Marjorie is adamant that she should take over paying the bills and controlling the budget. Brian insists he’s doing a good job and she needs to back off. Pick the therapist response below that validates each client’s position.

“So for you, Brian, it feels like it’s about her doing it better than you do, and I can understand that makes you mad. But for you Marjorie, there’s something here about not feeling included, not a partner, and I get that this is the part that’s difficult for you, yes??”

“Yes, Brian, I understand it must be hard for you to get the message that you don’t do it right. Can you see where he’s coming from Marjorie?”

“Why don’t you compromise…say, take it in turns?”

“So Marjorie this is about not feeling included and not a partner with him. That must be really painful to not feel included, yes? Can you let him know, can you tell him how hard that is for you?”

14.

Pick the therapist answer that is the best example of a reframe.

“But I can understand that you felt really left out and abandoned, and that must have been very painful for you.”

“Yes, well I can understand that, I might have reacted just that way if I were in your shoes.”

“You can see now that she didn’t mean to ignore you or let you down, and I’ll bet you’ve already apologized for your behavior.”

“Your anger was about your longing to be there at her side because she is so important to you, right?”

15.

Pick the therapist response that best exemplifies “catching the bullet.”

“What I’m hearing is that this is so hard for you, so painful, because you know she has let you down, too.”

“Can you just listen to her, right now? She needs for you to understand this.”

“What I’m getting is that it’s truly hard for you to hear her disappointment, so hard that somehow you move in to stop her.”

“You sound really defensive as you say this to your wife.”

16.

Reflections help maintain the focus of the session.

True

False

17.

When the therapist validates a client, it helps the client to regulate feelings of shame and self-judgment.

True

False

18.

A validating statement affirms and reframes a client’s experience.

True

False

19.

The intervention called “catching the bullet” is a kind of reframe where the therapist bypasses the aggression and focuses instead on the underlying pain.

True

False

20.

The EFT therapist only uses reflection in the early stages of assessment.

True

False

21.

What is Sarah’s secondary (reactive) emotion?

Anger

Loneliness

Numb denial

Fear

22.

The therapist says: “Sounds like it’s really hard for you, Sarah, when he spends time with Ruth?” This therapist response in an example of:

Reframing

Reflection

Catching the bullet

. Validation

23.

In this exchange the therapist is trying to:

Validate Sarah

Understand Sarah’s experience

Reframe her anger

Catch the bullet

24.

Write a statement that validates each partner without invalidating the other.